When conflict occurs, the natural reaction is to blame someone else and defend yourself. But believers must respond differently. Once, I was publicly chastised for a wrong I had not committed. Thankfully, the Lord enabled me to remain calm rather than react angrily. Praying first is always the best response in a crisis. When we do, God supernaturally provides that which we can't muster up ourselves.
- Spiritual discernment. The Lord, who perfectly understands the source of every problem, can give us insight beyond our limited perspective. Perhaps there's been a communication breakdown, a feeling of jealousy on the other person's part, or a mistake we unknowingly made. The Holy Spirit can show us how to approach our accuser and see beyond hurtful words or actions.
- A quiet spirit. Our human nature wants to react quickly so that we can defend ourselves. That's why we must first deliberately focus our attention on the Lord and experience the inward peace He alone makes available to us (John 14:27).
- Wisdom. Jesus told His disciples the Holy Spirit would give them wise words to say when they faced hostile authorities. He'll do the same for you. Ask Him to put a seal on your lips until He shows you what to say and when (Ps. 141:3).
We don't have to react to criticism with anger and self-protection the way the world does. Instead, we are called to represent Christ in every situation by depending on Him. In responding as He directs, we bring Him glory and cause unbelievers to want to know the source of our strength.
Dr. Charles Stanley
Wise counsel for a battle we constantly face- much better than my default response, which is to get irritated and then make fun of that person behind their back. These principles lead to a much better outcome. (Not as much fun initially, but with a far better result.)
ReplyDeleteHey KRM! Thanks for your frank response to this post We appreciate your participation and thoughts on this issue. Self control is something that must be practiced over and over!.
DeleteHello, KRM, I too have had a problem with this until I could get to where I stopped with the quick response and took a breath(asking for God's help). As with all our area's of weakness, if we will pray for God to take away our sinful actions on a continual daily basis, until it is gone. I have done this and it works; if your hearts desire is to stop that behavior, remember He knows your heart. I hope this helps and if it does or doesn't please feel free to continue chatting.
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